We can't please everyone all the time. Paul does say however, to do your best to live "peaceably with all men (i.e. everyone Romans 12:18). But he also says that the Cross of Christ offends (see Galatians 5:11). Is there a happy medium? I guess the best we could hope for is to offend all of the people some of the time. I'll explain:
One question I have is this. Who are we looking to please? Ourselves? Other people? God? Paul says in Galatians "for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ" (1:10). If someone I meet has a problem with me, my first impulse shouldn't be to try and ingratiate myself into their liking. Assuming my heart is right with God, and as God's proxy in that situation, the problem they have is ultimately with Him. This is what Paul is referring to when he talks about the "offence of the cross". People are smart--many times, smarter than they let on--and they think at the speed of light (sometimes faster, it would seem). God's presence in you will bring them to a decision as to whether or not they want to accept Jesus and His sacrifice for their sin. His chief aim on this earth was to offer Himself as a sacrifice for our sin and separation from God, all done in obedience to His Father--and ours. And the more someone rejects Jesus out of unbelief, the more they'll be offended. Call it what you will, it's a spiritual clash.
In my interactions with people, I seek to be as kind as possible. Granted, most of them are pleasant considering they (the interactions) don't last much longer than two or three minutes. But inevitably, I run across the odd individual who doesn't seem to be on the same page as I--not that that's required of everyone. Jesus says to be "wise as a serpent, and harmless as doves" (Matthew 10:16). In the encounters in which I clash with an opposite temperament, wisdom dictates that I withdraw from someone who would seek to hurt me or steal from me. Make sure I forgive, but don't let them in. More needs to be written on the concept of learning to keep out individuals who are detrimental to our spiritual health.
Clicking is also spontaneous. No pretense, no ambiguity. 1 John 1:7 says "But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanseth us from all sin." The Holy Spirit will knit our hearts together. I would say that the same goes for those who are kind and honest and maybe aren't Christian. Those qualities in them will resonate with you and you'll have made a friend. You'll click.
"Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord." (Hebrews 12:14)