"And whosoever shall fall on this stone shall be broken:" (Matthew 21:44)
Jesus calls us to follow Him. Should those He uses to lead us to Him slip and stray, we are called to pray and intercede, but to continue following Jesus. To fall in with those who aren't right with God—will end in our falling apart. There's a reason that Eli wasn't able to tell until the third time that God was calling Samuel. And I don't mean to judge harshly, but it does say that "his eyes began to wax dim, that he could not see" (1 Samuel 3:2) The same could not be said for Moses: "And Moses was an hundred and twenty years old when he died: his eye was not dim" (Deuteronomy 34:7) In spite of Moses' mistake of hitting the rock for water the second time, God honored Moses because he endeavored to truly know God and to affix his vision upon Him.
"And they all forsook Him, and fled." (Mark 14:50)
There's no reason that deep friendships can't continue. Proverbs (6:19) says that the Lord hates "he (or she) that soweth discord among brethren." The devil is known as the "accuser of the brethren" (Revelation 12:10). Anytime we would be tempted to deal harshly with our brothers and sisters in Christ, we need to understand where that attitude is coming from. If Jesus prayed to His Father "That they all may be one" (John 17:21), you gotta know that the devil works overtime to drive a wedge between the body. Forgiveness and compassion are the order of the day. Because a church atmosphere has higher highs and lower lows than most other organizations. Falling out with our brethren need never happen.
"For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again" (Proverbs 24:16a)
We need each other. Mistakes are inevitable. Learning from them may not be. Solomon had his fair share of mistakes. He speaks again in Ecclesiastes (4:9-10) "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up." This? This can't happen unless we're (1) endeavoring to follow Jesus. And (2), looking to maintain the sanctity of the body of Christ by praying and interceding for our brothers and sisters in Him. This is an axiom that God always expects, rewards and upholds. The beauty of the church community is our willingness to confront and forgive and love.
"My soul breaketh for the longing that it hath unto Thy judgments at all times." (Psalm 119:20)
Where were they when you needed them? This question, while it has been asked many a time, needs to go the way of the dinosaur. If, in the church, we can't find the caring and understanding and compassion to salve the emotional and spiritual wounds that we sustain throughout the seasons of our lives, where else can we go? God must hate this too. "The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear?" (Proverbs 18:14) The sad part is that sometimes it's our own brothers and sisters in Christ who inadvertently either cause or exacerbate the wounds. Just like a cut on the skin, the Holy Spirit goes to work immediately upon forgiveness to begin the healing process.
It's called "falling in love" for a reason.