"That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God." (Ephesians 3:17-19, emphasis mine)
Warping ones mind around
So that word in the Greek is katalambano. A loose translation would be "wrap one's mind around". To so know Jesus that we feel some aspect of His presence at all times. I would say that the ways in which we seek the Lord are both central to our walk (that's what "our walk" is, for God's sake) but also eminently unique to us. My opinions and observations regarding another's fellowship with Christ better be backed with love and non-judgment. And so, I would say that in whatever way we encounter Christ, we are indeed seeing and/or sensing an aspect of love. Wrap your mind around that. But before one is able to do such a thing, one must necessarily wander a bit.
"For they got not the land in possession by their own sword, neither did their own arm save them: but Thy right hand, and thine arm, and the light of thy countenance, because Thou hadst a favour unto them." (Psalm 44:2)
Anymore, with property taxes and eminent domain and the discouraging lengths of red tape the world over, the acquisition of physical property is reserved only for those who really, really want it. But within, where all the space you could ever want—is yours for the asking, the idea of "staking out one's territory" is absolutely doable. With God's help, of course. From the above verse, the Israelites did indeed use steel to accomplish their territorial ambitions. But when the psalmist(s) describes the victory (as History is written by the victors), they rightfully place both God's strength as well as His "favour" as the top reasons the land was gained. God seems to have flung the territories out as trinkets for anyone who wanted. And the internal space of heart and mind is God's to grant as well, make no mistake. We will never attain to our right mind unless we meet and then get to know God. He holds the deed(s). But there is one thing we can do.
"Every place whereon the soles of your feet shall tread shall be yours: from the wilderness and Lebanon, from the river, the river Euphrates, even unto the uttermost sea shall your coast be. There shall no man be able to stand before you: for the Lord our God shall lay the fear of you and the dread of you upon all the land that ye shall tread upon, as He hath said unto you. Behold, I set before you this day a blessing and a curse." (Deuteronomy 11:24-26)
Choosing God means sitting at the feet of Christ. It means doing one thing. And that is whatever He says. It's different for everyone and it means there will come seasons of dryness while God aligns us with His will for our life within, and without.
A little give and take
"I have shewed you all things," says Paul, "how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how He said, it is more blessed to give than to receive." (Acts 20:35)
In closing, did you know that whatever space inside you devote to God and to knowing Christ, He will give that space back to you? I feel there is this lie at large that would have us believe all God wants to do is shackle us to the outworkings of religion (the Indo-European root for "religion" means "to bind") to the neglect of our heart and passions and imagination. God is nowhere near any preconceived notion that is not based in peace and joy and love. And when it says "that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God", it's understood that God won't give you Himself, or, more of Himself, unless we truly want it.