Commanding Presence

"When thou art bidden of any man to a wedding, sit not down in the highest room; lest a more honourable man than thou be bidden of him; And he that bade thee and him come and say to thee, Give this man place; and thou begin with shame to take the lowest room." (Luke 14:8-9, emphasis mine) Notice how it's the one "that bade thee and him". Only God can tell you "where to go", so to speak. If you walk into a wedding--or anywhere for that matter--and assert yourself with the intent of "taking someone's seat", you're gonna look the fool.

Eschewing echelons

All through the word of God, the dichotomy of echelons comes into play. Where we're expected to revere God above all else and also humble ourselves in turn. It might sound like the former would obviously precede the thinking on and doing of the latter. But let me just say right here that when you acknowledge the Lord as "far above all heavens" (Ephesians 4:10), He lifts you up with Him. "That He may set him (and her) with princes, even with the princes of His people." (Psalm 113:8) There's a lot going on in God's kingdom. Orders and rank-and-file and levels. All of which, Jesus descended through in order to make contact with the lowest. But we then have to continue to make a conscious decision to remain humble in light of the vantage point God gives us. And so, this:

"Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up." (James 4:10)

This is one of the reasons I have so vehement a response towards those who seek to command my attention and respect and, in a word, validation upon entering a place--whether them or me. They may indeed be accomplished, outstanding in their field, etc. But I don't know this. Nothing about anyone says they deserve any more consideration than I would afford anyone else. Lest you think I'm standoffish or unkind or impersonal, I will say that I have a highly attuned sense of affectation. Both in myself and others. And if I come on too strong in the presence of another, I immediately (is it the Holy Spirit?) feel I've transgressed a bubble, some personal space. Likewise with others, too. At the first scent of posturing in order to receive that little extra glance, or thought or notice, I turn off. I don't walk around thinking I have what it takes to add to you in order to make you become what you want to be in the eyes of the world. And I know that others don't have what it takes to make me become what I desire to be in the eyes of God. Only He can give me what I need to be who He needs me to be. Get it from Him. The only person whose attention we can rightfully command is God's and it's by being humble.

"He ruleth by His power for ever; His eyes behold the nations: let not the rebellious exalt themselves. Selah. O bless our God, ye people, and make the voice of His praise to be heard: Which holdeth our soul in life, and suffereth not our feet to be moved." (Psalm 66:7-9)

In closing, I would like to say that no one person is the enemy. Forgive the person who you sense prevents you from being at ease. And if you look around and don't see anyone, forgive yourself.